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    Sobering thoughts...

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    Darkside Dave
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    Sobering thoughts...

    Post  Darkside Dave on Wed May 06, 2009 10:17 am

    Hi Folks,
    Yesterday evening I went to what can be best described as a wake for a friend of mine that fell victim to pancreatic cancer just two months ago and died a week ago.

    I had known Terry since we were neighborhood kids way back in 1953. We lost touch for about forty years and we got back together less than two years ago. Terry was quite a guy. He had a Ph D and degrees in physics and electrical engineering as well as a degree from Harvard Business School. It really seemed a bit odd to me that he found our re-kindled friendship so inspiring when we re-connected. I’m afraid he held me in much higher esteem than I deserve. Why he felt that way I am not sure. I say that because I am not a college graduate. Yes, I have done a lot of things in my life, and a I went to a lot of tech schools and did a lot of learning on my own, but that and the current going price will get me a cup of coffee at Micky D’s.

    In the brief time that we re-kindled our friendship he expressed a strong desire to learn the skills I have acquired over the years and most of all wanted to learn to weld. He also expressed a desire to work with me on a vehicle project of some kind. I guess I really feel bad that he didn’t get the chance.

    My point is that time is slipping away for all of us no matter what our age. Terry was just 61 and under normal conditions would probably have lived another ten or twenty years. Unfortunately he didn’t get the chance. Two weeks before he died they gave him eleven months to live. It just goes to ahow you can’t count on any given estimate.

    So many of us here are thinking that we will get around to this or that at some point down the road. Don’t count on it. If you have a passion for something do something about it now. Make a start at it no matter how insignificant it might be.

    I have way more projects than I will ever be able to finish in my lifetime. That doesn’t matter though. What matters is that I am enjoying the experience of working on them. I hope that all of you who read this take a lesson from it and get out there and do your thing. I know I will often be thinking of Terry when I am working in the shop doing the things he wanted to do.




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    Re: Sobering thoughts...

    Post  Darkside Dave on Sat May 23, 2009 10:38 am

    Follow up...

    It seems that bad things often come one after another. While it is not the same as what happened to my friend Terry, it is just another reminder that our time is relatively short. I recently got word that my uncle died. He was just a little over 90 years old and he was a WWII vet. He was a bombardier on a B-24 that was shot down over Austria and he spent time in a German Prisioner of War camp util liberated by Gen. Patton. Although that alone does make him special in my eyes, it is not my point here.

    Maybe it is because I am now one of the older folks that I am giving more consideration to these matters. All this has caused me to really consider how important it is for all of us to spend quality time with our elder loved ones. Working together on car and truck projects is a great way to spend that time together. What I am saying here is if you have a project going, try and involve your older relatives in an active way. It makes the project a lot more fun and you get to spend time with your dad or uncle.

    My dad died at age 58 and we never got to do these things together. He did make a big effort to spend a lot of time with me when I was a kid at home but I still really think I missed out on a lot of things because of his early death.

    It makes no difference if you are the younger or the older, the point is to make an effort to do things together and enjoy each other's company while you can. Working on car and truck projects is a great way to spend that time.

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    Post  Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 6:14 am

    Same thing here.
    My mother always had bad health and we knew she would not live to be old.
    She made it to 67.

    It was my desire to demand that my father come live with me when she died.
    He wanted a 1940 Ford pickup and I have 7 or 8 old junkers to build from.
    I want to build one for me and I thought we could each build one at the same time.

    Imagine the surprise when he died before my mom did!
    We sure weren't expecting THAT!!

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